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Phillipians 2:3 Don’t do anything for selfish purposes, but with humility think of others as better than yourselves.
It is human nature to think "Im right." And if someone else (ie. our spouse)thinks differently, we automatically think "They're wrong." This is the origin of a whole lotta' troubles when it comes to trying to build a thriving marriage.
Serving on the pastoral team of Kings Park International Church, my husband and I have the privilege of helping to strengthen marriages. Often leading 'small group' book discussions, we've read LOTS of books, But the most recent, "Love and Respect' has proven to stand head and shoulders above them all!
One of it's many gems is that a couple can make huge strides toward solidarity when they embrace this truth: My spouse is not wrong, just different. The author, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, expounds on the reality of men and women's different perspectives. Women 'see pink.' Men see 'blue.'She is not 'wrong' for seeing pink. She is simply different from blue. "His blue view is not wrong for being blue. He is simply different from pink."
Like most profound thoughts, it's elegantly simple and deeply true.
"Collecting Love's Thoughts" : prints available here
Ephesians 5:20 “ giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father..."
Early in our marriage, a wise older couple shared some profound wisdom. It was only five little words, but, WOW! They have really served to help sustain us. RAISE your appreciation and LOWER your expectations!So many times, I've thought that the reason this is so awesome, is probably because it's exactly the OPPOSITE of what we humans gravitate toward! Left unchecked, we are self-centered and seek our own comfort. We add expectations like charms on a bracelet. We easily forget other's strong points, in light of our growing wants.
In our marriage, we have often reached for this little nugget, pulled it out, and freshly remembered it's sparkle. We've made a practice of taking time to specifically telling each other things we are thankful for in the other. Exchanging appreciations has incredible power to smooth over rough patches, water dry areas and freshly kindle love's glow. Try it. I guarantee it really does wonders when regularly practiced!
I Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
I don't know about you, but I always feel like the Valentine's Day hullabaloo is a bit of a cheap veneer. Commercials and advertisements create mirages of 'just-add-water' instant bliss. For the naive, it holds out a pseudo prescription for solidifying love with the simple act of giving gooey chocolates and soon-to-fade-flowers. Although certainly 'sweet' gestures, these things alone don't really sustain lasting love. But instead, rather it's the hard-to-practice- stuff of patience, forgiveness, humility, kindness and mercy that hold the power to build , strengthen and hold love's ground. I know, speaking from 35 years of experience, that THESE are really the 'super powers' that create a fertile environment where love, in it's truest and fullest sense, can grow.
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